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The Looking Glass
Feb. 3rd, 2003 01:06 amSo, I hurt H deeply by not inviting her to SF yesterday (I invited her girlfriend instead). I spent the day chasing her down to make amends. After I threw imported chocolate at her and assured her that my decision to keep it to T, O, and I had nothing to do with my feelings for her, we made tentative amends. She's still a little hurt and I still feel a little bad.
It's been a long time since I've been on this side of an apology. And while I don't enjoy the misunderstanding and the hurt feelings, it's given me a little perspective. It's hard to maintain righteous indignation when you realize how many things can go wrong with good intentions and unintended consequences.
File this one under lessons learned, cross-referenced with empathy.
Oy.
Other news from today, found out my friends A and T are getting married, S is dating someone (another young 'un like myself), and D broke up with his new girlfriend.
(I think its a sign of progress that I've placed that last bit of information with general gossip.)
My body is still thankful for last night's adventures. All told, I probably spent two hours in the wet sauna...actively purging the toxins from the past months...my skin is glowing and the rest of me is still enjoying the release. As cheesy as it sounds, the sweating in the sauna combined with some serious meditation on the outdoor deck really helped center me. I'm more hopeful about life and even about love. Things are looking up.
It's been a long time since I've been on this side of an apology. And while I don't enjoy the misunderstanding and the hurt feelings, it's given me a little perspective. It's hard to maintain righteous indignation when you realize how many things can go wrong with good intentions and unintended consequences.
File this one under lessons learned, cross-referenced with empathy.
Oy.
Other news from today, found out my friends A and T are getting married, S is dating someone (another young 'un like myself), and D broke up with his new girlfriend.
(I think its a sign of progress that I've placed that last bit of information with general gossip.)
My body is still thankful for last night's adventures. All told, I probably spent two hours in the wet sauna...actively purging the toxins from the past months...my skin is glowing and the rest of me is still enjoying the release. As cheesy as it sounds, the sweating in the sauna combined with some serious meditation on the outdoor deck really helped center me. I'm more hopeful about life and even about love. Things are looking up.
